Sharing Holiday Kindness with Families of Kids whO Struggle
Families with children who struggle face many of the same challenges that typical families face during the holidays. Connecting for Kids families still figure out how to spend time with relatives, find the right holiday gift, and negotiate family gatherings - but for many, there are added demands that can make holidays harder to get through.
Common Challenges
According to our families, some of the most difficult challenges are:
While many of our families know how to resolve these problems, many have trouble actually implementing the solutions because our culture reinforces self-reliance and putting family before ourselves. Others simply don't have time or energy to do more than simply survive the holidays. |
How To Help
According to CFK families, the things that make the biggest difference between surviving the holidays and enjoying them are:
Allow Families to Say "No"Families who are allowed to feel comfortable declining invitations to events that their children cannot tolerate or leaving an event early experience less stress during the holiday season. By letting the family of a struggling child know that you understand they may not be able to come or stay for your holiday event, you offer them the grace of balancing their child's needs first. Choose Gifts WiselyEveryone wants to give children a gift that they love, but for children who struggle, gift-giving may not be as straight-forward. Even though you may want to the gift to be a surprise, it makes sense to talk to the child's parents first and learn about his or her interests and needs. Offer Safe Favorites at MealtimeNothing makes a child feel more welcome than when someone special to him or her thinks ahead and has a favorite food or dinnertime activity ready. If you're hosting a child who struggles with food issues, ask parents ahead of time if there is a safe treat you can have ready for the child. If the child chooses not to accept, be gracious and don't force the issue. Offer Time or HelpEveryone is busy during the winter holidays, but the gift of time can go a long way for the family of a struggling child. Even the gift of 10 minutes (for example, letting a family go ahead of you in the grocery line) could mean the difference between a holiday shopping success and a meltdown. If you have time, consider offering to watch the children so the parents can do holiday shopping or help clean before a family dinner. For a family who needs help but doesn't know how to ask, these simple offers can make a huge difference. Practice ToleranceMany families with children who struggle experience acts of intolerance (such as accusing looks/words during a public meltdown or people becoming offended because a struggling child has an inappropriate social interaction). By responding with tolerance or even offering assistance, you can help reduce stress on the family. Reach for ConnectionFamilies know that it is not always easy to make a connection with their struggling child, but when friends and relatives make the extra effort to connect, that effort can be more meaningful than any gift. If you're not sure how to connect with a struggling child, ask the family for special interests and favorite activities. |
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Additional Resources
- 10 Things to Know Before Our Family Visits for the Holidays (The Mighty)
- 11 Random Acts of Kindness for Families (Friendship Circle)
- Find the Perfect Toys with These Gift Guides (Friendship Circle)
- Fostering Gratitude (Meghan Barlow and Associates)
- When Your Grandchild Has Autism (Carrie Cariello)
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